What have ADHD words, low empathy and narcissistic in common? Perhaps more than many people can present. This knowledge must even be understood in the field of mental health because it could maintain the key to a happier life.
In this publication I will explain a brief introduction before introducing an important sample of the first person. At the end, you will find a link to my podcast of this article, and more links to my blog post on empathy and ADHD.
A "bad forecast" - in the wrong hands
Today, the Internet deals with basic stories about itNarcissists
Yes, it is important that we understand what we face a narcissistic behavior.Power towards others. However, this is not always true.
For example, many children with ADHH experience cognitive defects far beyond the classroom. Some of these defects distort the idea of a reasonable person from a "happy childhood." Of life, especially their relationships. Reflection and remorse.
If we observe negative conversations about "children's drugs" ADHD, what is lost? Compassion: for these children and their families. To mention: a fundamental understanding of brain functions.
It is an open season for narcissists, including children
In addition, a child can invite a terrible diagnosis without empathy in the hands of the wrong psychiatric specialist: narcissistic personality disorder, or even a narcissistic personality disorderPsychopath.
In this article on the Atlantic website, for example, an extremely hidden and punishing vision of the phenomenon is announced:If your child is a psychopathFar.
These diagnosesto takeThis happens because the mental health profession considers it "bad predictions." In other words, there are little hope of change. Behaviors become part of the personality, without changes.
But expect.If this child also has ADHD, there is a good possibility that the medicine of the first qualification for ADHD, the neuroestimulants, there is a good possibilityhe canIncrease jealous empathy with all other brain functions of "higher order." This is not difficult to understand. But it is not a general knowledge.Are you, me or adult A.D.D.?
To be clear: ADHD treatment can usually help the narcissistic childhave more reliable access to your innate brain functions, including empathy, consciousness and more.
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Obviously, narcissistic parents can also have ADHD or one of several front rap problems. It is like this for their children, especially if the child also has ADHD.
But I suspect that it seems worse when the therapists or pop culture of adult children say that their parents' problems arise from the narcissistic actions of their parents, who are motivated by control and power.From the dangers to maintain the old psychological theories. We are sincere to curse.
ADHD, EMPATHY AND CREATION OF A NARCISISTA
In fact, my friend Taylor J. was one of these children.You, me and virtual discussion about ADHD.Here changes through her own diagnoses and her husband.
That was great.
Taylor and her husband triedteachEmpathy with the girl, but the lessons never retired.
Pdprimero read about ADD and empathy here
Note: An earlier version of this article was launched on January 27, 2016.This indicates that I am one of the first to write about ADHD and empathy.ÖFirst.
Many have only followed the example in the last two years. This includes those who have publicly criticized my 2008 book (Are you, me or adult A.D.D.?) for "important things about ADHD."
In addition, I also said that drug treatment can usually give the person a more reliable ADHD due to their innate empathy.
Why the conversion of the last day? Have you seen the high search ranking on Google for this publication now that everyone can analyze the analysis of websites. If this creates lighting on this complex theme, it is so.
Por Taylor J.
ÖDeepest number oneI learned from ADHD as follows: it can cause problems to combine "cause" with "effect". And this can create a world of difficulties.
For example, a student will not see his poor learning habits as the reason for his bad grades. They are soon as he has a "bad" teacher. A woman will not see that her sarcastic and sharp words will emotionally eliminate her husband. At the time inthat she calls him "cold." A young man will not see that his driving and his ruthless speed caused a car accident.we almost arriveClimatic conditions.
Genius is not needed to recognize that the non -constant combination of actions with consequences damages a person's life. Syrough can kill the potential of relationships.
I saw how it develops in my 10 -year -old daughter. Let's call itThe rocket.
I promised to be different from my narcissistic parents
First give me a small background.
My parents are terribly mentally ill and reject the treatment. Once they have blamed everyone else for their problems, and drown their sadness for alcohol, drugs and parts of the pity.With a new baby, my parents could only talk about themselves. Obtuve all the lack of terrible empathy.
When I got married and founded a family, I promised to be different. When renouncing my firstborn, the oldest of the four girls, vi helpless as all the lessons about the empathy I tried to convey.
What do I mean by that? Well, on the one hand I wouldto exploreAnother. She has established games in which everyone had to treat him as a queen who visited another planet, or convinced friends, her favorite toys and clothes.Forever.
I even caught her in an elaborate "Rack Rack Rack" of Garden of Infants: take the sister's money to keep the monsters away (she deserved 6 dollars!)
She would take it, but she would never give it again. Tus friends would give gifts, invitations or fulfilled. However, she never saw her favor.
In fact, he would show that a compliment lost a detail or that the gift does not fit exactly. I even would go to a friend's house and criticize her clothes or decoration for her! "You really shouldn't have the house of this wrist, it is for theBabies you have to take a Barbie doll house. "Oh really?Where youlearnto be?
I asked the wrong question. When I learned much later, she wasn'tHe learnedBehaveinnate.
Without "cause and effect", only "bad parents"
My husband and I repeatedly explain that his wordsOther people injured.We would ask: "How would you feel when Ginny will come?areAt home and saidareDollhouse was for babies?"
The confused fire would answer: “But my dollhouse isNOI would never say that for babies!"We punish her to say cruel words, and she never understoodWeilHe was punished. We had "bad parents."
There was more. Exploded on the slightest frustration.
I remember that when I was only one year old and shouted the thirst in the form because he did not mount the block in the way he wanted it.
Sporadic explosions of affection and low tolerance towards frustration
We saw sporadic explosions to take care of them. We could never predict when it would happen.
Her first words when she hits her sister: "I will take care of her and make sure that Autositz (while talking to a teacher). She feared that he would violate the" weakness "of the baby.
When he was violently ill with another pregnancy, he proclaimed his sister: "Don't worry. When mom's advances make you a sandwich."
However, the words rarely participated in the actions.
The campfire called her sister who had adapted her soft toys exhibition. My second daughter dissolved in tears and asked: "Why don't you love me?" Is the rocket's response? The trace of her sister bothered her reading time.
Without the broader context, you can see this as a typical rivalry of brothers. But it was much more worrying.
I wondered if I created a narcissist.
Shocking: My son has ADHD, he is not a narcissistic
My husband and I have adh. We take two medications. I know the dramatic changes in the perception and behavior provided by medicine.
When the ADHD -ADHD was finally diagnosed in the rocket last July and began the treatment of medicines, did not even prepare for the next change.
I gave him the first dose of Ritalin. He must show that when we return from the supermarket, she said: "Mom, you can't use everything." Go to him! "Diales bag."You should ask for help if you need, mom!"
When the baby began to cry: "Oh, love, come here and let me hug him! Don't worry, mom, I consider her. I know you eat for lunch."
When I had to change plan, I was worried: "Ah, stinks, but I know you didn't try to make life difficult. We can go tomorrow."
To be clear: my daughter was not a "good child" machine.Herself.But an emotionally regulated version of itself.A more content version.
That was obvious: she was as relieved as the changes.
"Everything will be fine"
The medicine had worn out five hours later. The rocket came to me, the tears dripped on his face,Screams"Mother! Ishorrible!Stop crying[The baby cried for a minute.] Is that when I didn't take any medication?"
I took it, through my shoulders, I looked into my eyes, lowered my voice and said: "Don't worry. In order.Yes, it was all the time.Take your next dose, feel here and look at something on television while defending a timer. If the timer's trigger, your next dose is taken.“I cleaned your tears and lit something fun.
He spent half an hour. When he felt better, he looked at me and said: "Mom, maybe you should take me to a breakdown book to work when I am angry. So I can calm myself without shouting at anyone."
Look at the rest of the night when he spoke with love with his sisters and forgave them when they had committed the serious sin ofTouch your things.
Made to facilitate athens
As the favorite book before going to bed, he looked up and said: "Mom, now I understand why Eragon sighed so deeply when he saw his brother: he was afraid that his brother was also a gentleman!" The stories were made more clear.
Remember that this is only the first day of TDAH treatment.
I asked my husband to put the girls on the bed that night. So I turned on the shower and fell into sobs while the water washed in my face. With immense gratitude and relief, I finally realized that my daughter TDAHe had, but she was not a can.
My daughter suffered from an existing brain state, not an incurable bad that stalked behind her smile.
Maybe my parents can also be helped to change their narcissistic behavior. I hope they reach a point where you are ready to try the treatment.
So, the next time I listen to someone with the idea of bringing a child to the drug for ADHD, Like this,Remember my rocket. Please, know that this is the caseBesidesThe control of many people with ADHD, including children, to make certain connections with too effective effects.
Please know that my girl is happier andhealthierWhen she never went. (More about this in a future Ginny contribution).
The History of the Rocket comic: overcome a fight
I will close with this incredible comic that the rocket designed for school. I hadanythingTo see it. Filheloves Graphic novels, including authors such as Raina Telegmar and dozens of comics in this style.
Recently, his class read a story calledPointAbout overcoming a difficult fight. In response, you must write about a fight that you have exceeded. This is the story of my girl.
Research: ADHD AND NARCISIST PROPERTIES
This phenomenon is also more common than the mental health profession. This is the connection between ADHD without empathy and narcissistic behavior. You can listen to the podcast of this article:
This other publication (ADHD AND EMPATHY: study, excellent book and empathy) Deals with the theme of different angles:
1.Define empathy(This is not what most people think).
2.Extract a ticket for empathy and relationshipsVonYou, me or adults A.D.D.?
3.Part of details of an additional connection of the AO of Studypowyoping between dopamine andEmpatia cognitive.
A preview of the study:Confirms that my observation was first observed 20 years ago: stimulating medication generally increases empathy in people with ADHD.
But wait.NOBecause the drug "creates empathy." The opposite, as the study suggests in the previously connected area, medicineIncrease dopamine transmissionThis allows some people with ADHD to concentrate and access this brain function of "higher order".
Empathy seems easy. But it is really a complex phenomenon.
For another angle on this topic:Empathy and neurons mirror: or, see Monkey, Macaco yawn
And you? You have noticed a difference in your child
Expression of empathy or regulation of mood after TDAH treatment?
Congratulations on your perspectives.